What better way is there to begin a new life with someone than to tidy your belongings ensuring you both "fit" together? Our new client, M, loves her shoes.....a lot!! And her jeans and her dresses and her leggings and her shoes and workout tee's and her shoes and her.......everything. This lovely business owner will soon be saying "I do" down south in Mexico and we wanted to make sure she felt settled and ready to be a newly-wed when she returns from her trip. She and her fiancé have a house in the mountains for the winter and a posh condo in the city for the summer and M doesn't like to schlepp her belongings back and forth and we don't blame her! The only request by D, her fiancé, was that he didn't lose any of his space in the closet. Keeping this in mind, we had a bit of work to do!
The KonMari Method tidying lesson #1 is clothes, so I urged M to pick only the items that spark joy. As I pulled all the shoes off the shelves she quickly selected several pairs to discard which lacked any spark at all and the pairs she kept, you couldn't mistake the sparkle in her eyes for anything other than absolute joy. She did the same with several tops and bottoms and when she opened the dresser drawers to see her newly folded jeans and workout clothes, she squealed with joy! M showed D and he was happy that she was happy! This method of tidying will change your entire life! We categorized and neatly folded all of her clothes so that they would fit comfortably in their newly designated space and at the end of our session everything fit perfectly. M said, "I'm moved in!" All of her belongings now have a spot and everything is visible so nothing will be forgotten. D was even given an extra shelf on his side of the closet, woot woot!! ;)
She was very proud of herself for discarding several items and as we were leaving, D was placing a dozen pink roses in a vase and she was getting ready to pack for her NOLA bachelorette party. Congratulations, M & D, we can already see you will have a life filled of much joy-sparking together!!
Where would we be without our mothers? One of the happiest times I can remember as a child with my mom is spending Saturday mornings organizing my room. It's when I discovered my gift. I wouldn't actually realize it for another 20 years but I definitely remember those mornings pulling everything apart and putting it back together in a newly arranged way and the feeling of newness, as if I could be a whole new me. Moving my things around and giving them a new home seemed to give my room new life and energy and it definitely inspired my creativity and gave me a new perspective on my world. Today, I still do the same thing. I think I've rearranged my closet half a dozen times, my cowboy boots that have turquoise leather and flying sparrows on them are now displayed on the top shelf instead of being stored away in their box. I've let go of all the shoes I used to wear to my office job along with all my office clothes. Now when I open my closet, I feel the newness and the possibility of a new me. I love you, Mom, and thanks for teaching me why tidying feels so good!
I'm realizing more and more why it's so important to monitor my thoughts. When I don't, I just create the same things over and over. I had the idea for a dream board 4 years ago and I started it but didn't finish. This time around I wanted to love it, so I went to a few stores and decided I would only buy the things that sparked joy and I would only choose images that spoke to my heart.
I have a few goals that I'm trying to attain and so I thought I would find images that represented them and one of them is yoga. Lately I've been seeing these images in my mind of doing yoga poses and they come out of no where. I'll be sitting at a traffic light and all of a sudden I'll have a vision of myself in the lord of the dance pose. I know, weird. So I decided to start doing it in my living room and the feeling it gives my body can only be described as love which I guess must be endorphins...I'm not sure. I love how it makes me feel, so peaceful and calm. I will keep doing it and hope to eventually master it. Another goal I set for myself is self-love. Yes, it sounds cliché but when I listen to my thoughts, I can be very hard on myself most of the time which causes my shoulders to practically touch my ears. Another goal I have is to start running again. I actually had a dream last night that I was running and doing 10 minute miles. Next on my board, there is a circle-shaped image of a man and a woman laying in hammocks above a body of water. This is my goal for a relationship, easy, loving and adventurous. I also love to paint and want to master that as well so I chose a photo of Van Gogh to represent this goal. I actually painted the other day for the first time in months and I'm very happy with the result.
Self realization is a goal because I'm constantly yearning to find out who I am and what my life is for so I put it at the very top because it's the most important to me. I also included a map of the world and marked all of the places I'd love to travel to not just for leisure but to teach the benefits of tidying as well (getting my passport might help). I chose the word MASTERFUL because it describes my intention for everything I do. I want to master it, no matter what it is. I put 3 of my business cards to remind myself why I love tidying and helping others achieve their goals through tidying. I chose 2 fortunes my son and I found one night after having dinner at our favorite Thai restaurant. The first one says, "A dream will always triumph over reality, when it is given a chance." The second one says, "Make your life an exclamation not and explanation." These came at a very appropriate time and I am listening to their wisdom. I chose a turquoise vase full of pink peonies because both the colors and the flowers are my favorite and they spark much joy when I look at them. I included a drawing that my oldest son did for me. One night after Easter he left little drawings for me all over the house as if they were Easter eggs. They all had loving messages and pictures and I chose the heart he drew that says "best mom". Being a mother is a constant challenge and I need many reminders that I'm doing my best. The last image I chose was of a photo of a chair that sparks joy in a living room that I love, but more importantly there is a picture on the wall of an Audrey Hepburn quote. "She said, I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe the happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles." All of these statements spark joy and I love re-reading them, it's become my mantra.
A dream board will help you to remember why you have begun your tidying journey and when it gets tough and you feel like you can't keep going, your dream board will remind you why you can.